How sure are you about the marriage to George Rogers in 1858? As Doug has pointed out, there is a marriage index that lists an Emma Bates and a George Rogers on the same page in Birmingham in 1858. However there are 2 marriages per page and they did not marry each other. Also the Emma Bates who married in 1858 was born in 1839 not 1802 and was the daughter of John Bates not Thomas Bates.
The 2 marriage records on the page are actually as follows:
Name: Emma Bates
Gender: Female
Age: 19
Birth Date: abt 1839
Marriage Date: 15 Nov 1858
Marriage Place: Birmingham, St Philip, Warwickshire, England
Father: John Bates
Spouse: Matthew Rose
Source: Birmingham, England, Church of England Marriages and Banns, 1754-1937 Reference Number: DRO 25/29-31 (Marriages); Archive Roll: M136 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/sharing/15135605?h=b636bf
Name: George Rogers
Gender: Male
Age: 22
Birth Date: abt 1836
Marriage Date: 15 Nov 1858
Marriage Place: Birmingham, St Philip, Warwickshire, England
Father: Charles Rogers
Spouse: Eliza Evans
Source: Birmingham, England, Church of England Marriages and Banns, 1754-1937 Reference Number: DRO 25; Archive Roll: M57/136 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/sharing/15135620?h=c8e828
