Hi Jack, I will commit to these profiles for a day or so, and try to work on resolutions on all issues including getting the merges done.
As usual I have lots of opinions about how Wikitree could work better. :)
1. I think the merging system is the cause of this diversion. I call this a diversion not because there is not a real issue with the Stapletons, but because there is lots of work to do on Wikitree and so it should not normally be necessary to stop one person from making clear improvements. Wikis work as long as chicken and egg problems do not keep getting created. The unmerged match and profile manager system in pre 1500 profiles creates them constantly. When two questions arise about one profile, on a wiki it should be allowed and encouraged to solve ONE AT A TIME, rather than going for perfection all at one moment.
2. Instead of copying and pasting unfinished ideas and notes around multiple profiles, I think that in that phase of work it is better to stick to one profile or even better, a project page which helps others also keep track. In this case, not to forget, I actually was doing that - not for the Stapleton question, but for the Simon question it was very relevant. You see there that Simon is named as the father of Edward by Collins and basically no other source. Collins is a derivative source and often contains errors.
https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Project:Lionel_of_Antwerp_descendants#.5B.5BClifford-239.7CThomas_Clifford.5D.5D
I never found these Musgraves handled in Richardson by the way, so if you found a reference please let me know.
3. Several of the directions you started moving towards are based on very weak sources, whereas there were strong ones available. I gave you a lot of links, which you copied from, but somewhere in the drafting process you clearly lost track of which quotes came from which sources. It can be important to go for the strongest sources as quickly as possible, and keep notes.
4. A result of the broken merging system is that you keep seeing people say that two profiles can not be merged because (a) the information on the profiles are not clear and (b) the two people must be in a different generation. How can you say both (a) and (b)? In the case of the Richard Musgrave who m. Betham (a) is true and therefore (b) can not be a valid opinion. Surely we all realize that in Wikitree "birth years" such as "before 1421" often come from events that happened long after birth, during adult life. So a 20 year difference in "stub" articles is common and understandable given the wikitree policy of not allowing people to create needed profiles unless they have a birth or death year. We should not forget that?
5. Just to make it clear, we all know there are ways to get merges done more predictably. You just have to change all the information so that 2 profiles look identical. Cynical though, if the aim is to get a second opinion? I do not like working cynically so I tend to post the links to sources etc, and I hope no one rejecting a merge will ignore that information. It just never works. I understand that, but it is very frustrating. I blame the system.