Kathy (Goulstone) Viney

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Daughter of Allan Goulstone and [private mother (1930s - unknown)]

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Kathy (Goulstone) Viney lived in Te Puke, Bay of Plenty, New Zealand.

Kathy (Goulstone) Viney lived in Mt Eden, Auckland, New Zealand.

Kathy (Goulstone) Viney lived in Christchurch, Canterbury, New Zealand.

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Biography

WikiTree Day Attendee: 2023

I started school at Maungawhau, walking down Ellerton Rd to the school each day with my brother and sister. Our house had a large back yard and I loved to play on the swing and slide set that my grandfather had built for us. I also loved the spreading plum tree in the back garden. I remember a tamarillo tree (we called them tree tomatoes then, and I didn't like them!), a grapefruit tree which provided breakfast for months of the year. Mum and Dad had a good vege patch back then. My sister and I shared a bedroom. I remember being very scared of sirens: ambulances and police often ran along Mt Eden Rd, and I would call out for Mum or Dad. One or other would come and reassure me that if our house was on fire, I would know long before sirens were heard.

One day we arrived home from church to find fire engines outside the neighbour's house where my friend, Va'a lived. Her brothers had been playing with fireworks and had accidentally set fire to their garage. I remember feeling quite superior to those foolish boys.

During these Auckland years we spent a lot of time with our Green cousins, with our mothers being sisters and not living too far away. As adults, we remain in touch with all our cousins (Green, Duley and Carr) to a great or lesser degree.

I remember little of Grandma Duley, as she died when I was quite young, but I do remember walking to the top of Ellerton Road to meet her off the bus when she came to visit me and Mum. I remember her as a warm, quiet, and hardworking presence, perhaps a little care-worn from the difficulties of her life. She knitted many of my jumpers and sewed clothes for us, having beena tailor in her early years. Grandma Duley died, aged 64, after a brief illness.

I also have a clear memory of being taken by Grandpa Goulstone to one of his Bible-in-Schools classes where, as a four-year-old, I sang for the school children. And I remember being at his home in Newhaven St, Ellerslie, especially bumping down the green painted concrete front steps on my bottom with my siblings. The steps seemed enormously high, but from recent drive-pasts it wasn't a big flight at all! We'd sometimes be at Grandma and Grandpa Goulstone's house for Sunday dinner after morning service in the Brethren Chapel (Robert St for my grandparents; Wiremu St for us). Mum says that after lunch, Grandpa would ask Grandma who hadn't been at the morning service, and those names would make up his Sunday afternoon visiting schedule.

In the few years I knew Grandpa, he and his brother, Roy, were operating as mechanics and car salesmen as Goulstone Brothers Ltd.

Grandpa had angina for some time, and I'm told the night he took more seriously ill, he didn't wake up Grandma so as not to bother her. By the time morning came and he was taken to hospital by ambulance it was too late and he died before my father could get there. At time of his funeral, which I didn't attend, I was in the car with my cousin, Melanie, and Mel was crying. I said to her, "Don't worry, Melanie, we'll see Grandpa in heaven." Four-year-old cuteness. Robert St Chapel missed Grandpa greatly when he passed, also at age 64. He had been a mainstay in Bible Class teaching, visiting and caring for the congregants, as well as Bible-in-Schools.

Grandpa Goulstone died just over a year after Grandma Duley, so this was a hard time for my parents. Passing on at age 64 seems way too young - my father-in-law died at that age, shortly after retiring, and now that I have passed the big 6-0 myself I have a new appreciation for the brevity of the lives of these three dear people.

I started school in 1967, the year NZ changed to decimal currency, so I never had to learn the complications of mathematics in pounds, shillings and pence. Good timing!

I took a walk around Maungawhau School playground in about 2019. Much has changed - the old stone main building has long gone, being demolished in 1979 - but there was still a lot I recognised.^[1] Mum, being a primary school teacher, would occasionally be asked to do relief work at Maungawhau after all of us were in school. I remember the playground with its big old trees which were the "girls' trenches", and the line of trees along the stone wall that marked the boundary were the "boys' trenches". A hangover from the war years, but they conveniently provided gender-segregated play areas for the students of the 1960s. I spent many lunch hours in the girls' trenches making mud pies among the roots of the trees.

Other school memories include the annual fair with candy floss, sausages, toffee apples (the apples were always a disappointment - soft and floury), a white elephant stall, and the highlight - the fancy dress parade. One year I went as "Buttons and Bows." My infant teacher was Mrs McArdle, but I also clearly remember Miss Hart who was my Std 1 teacher - my first year in the main school. She had a very trendy 1960s hairstyle with long bangs, and she and I did not always get along. I remember standing in the hallway outside the classroom - I'd been turfed out, probably for talking too much - and feel so very embarrassed when the principal, Mr Eric Boggs, came past. He didn't ask any awkward questions, but invited me into his office and gave me a task to do that required visiting a number of different classrooms including my own. I remember feeling quite smug as I walked back into Std 1 with an "important message" from Mr Boggs. It was a small victory over crabby teachers. Mrs Brunt (I can picture her but can't be sure the name.) was my teacher in Std 2, my last year at the school. She was Mormon, which intrigued me. (Being from a conservative religious background myself, I was absolutely sure she was not "Christian"!) She was very kind, though, and I enjoyed that year greatly. I was quick to learn and often had time leftover in class which I usually used for reading.

A bombshell came at the end of 1970 when our family moved away from Auckland to a new position Dad was taking up in Palmerston North.

(to be continued) 12 Feb 2020

I graduated BA from the University of Canterbury in 1983.^[2] My major subject was History.

Ian and I have been married since 1985, and have four adult children (including identical twin sons), and three grandchildren. Ian was born in London at Charing Cross Hospital. He emigrated to NZ in 1973 with his parents and younger brother. We have a number of Viney and Bowrey relatives in the UK and visit occasionally. Our last trip together was in 2016, though Ian popped back in 2019 when a Viney uncle passed away.

I have worked on-and-off in administrative roles - mostly "off" because I didn't work after having kids until they were well into school. Ian's work life was spent in computer technology - in recent years with a joint venture between Trimble and Caterpillar.

We met in a choir in our late teens and have lived most of our married life in Christchurch, NZ, but in 2019 took over running a small retreat centre in Little River on beautiful Banks Peninsula, where we host groups an individuals wanting some space to recharge in various ways.

My parents, Maureen (nee Duley) and Allan Goulstone, are doing well in their late-80s. We make sure we visit them each week when we're visit Christchurch, only a 45 minute drive away.

Digital Afterlife

In the event of my death or incapacity I would like to be sure that none of my hard work on WikiTree ends up being deleted. While I fully intend on being around to manage all my profiles for some years yet, I hereby give permission for all of my private profiles to be transferred to any of the following slightly-active WikiTreers in my family, whether or not they are currently on the trusted lists: Laura Wallan Elizabeth Martin Ian Viney

Also these people, not currently active on WikiTree: Roger Goulstone Stefan Duley Lynette Towler

Goulstone Surname: https://www.surnamedb.com/Surname/Goulstone

Sources

1. ↑ https://www.maungawhau.school.nz/our-history/
2. ↑ Press, 5 May 1983, Page 20. Viewed 4 Sep 2023.

• First-hand information. Entered by Kathy at registration.
• Personal memories and reflections, 2020-2021
• The Hunt Family, 150 Years in New Zealand, 1840-1990. By Vera Hunt
• ”Goulstone Family Genealogy” by Bryan V Goulstone
• The Duley Family by Joy Shelford
• Descendants of William and Sarah Clarkson by the Clarkson Family, 1990
• Paternal relationship is confirmed by an autosomal AncestryDNA test match between Kathy (Goulstone) Viney and Allan Goulstone, her father (direct ancestor). Predicted relationship from AncestryDNA: Father, based on sharing 50% cM across 3487 segments.
• Maternal relationship is confirmed by an autosomal AncestryDNA test match between Kathy (Goulstone) Viney and Maureen (Duley) Goulstone, her mother (direct ancestor). Predicted relationship from AncestryDNA: Mother, based on sharing 50% cM across 3481 segments.