Clayton Charles Barbeau (1930 - 2019)

Born 11 Apr 1930 in Sacramento, Sacramento, California, United States

Ancestors

Died 26 Jul 2019 at age 89 in California, United States

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Biography

This profile is part of the Barbeau Name Study.

Clayton Barbeau has French origins.

Clayton Charles Barbeau

Narrative

Clayton Charles Barbeau was born in Sacramento to Bertha and Louis Barbeau.

A U.S. Army veteran, Clayton served as a Corporal in the Korean War (1951-1953) and was awarded a Bronze Star. Clayton graduated Santa Clara University in 1959 and earned his Master's Degree from University of San Francisco in 1978. He won the James D. Phelan Award in Literature for his first novel, "The Ikon."

He married Myra Chorley in 1953, They raised 8 children in San Francisco : Michael, Amy, Rose-marie, Margaret, Mark, Daniel, Jennifer and Christopher.

Myra predeceased him in 1979. He was a proud grandfather to Michael, Nerissa, Alec, Myra, Rowan, Zane, Cassandra, Griffin and Sebastian and father-in-law to John, Loryn, Barbra, Ken and Kohlee. In 1989 Clayton married Maureen Lenihan, a mother of four and grandmother of ten.

Clayton was a prolific writer with published books about marriage, family and relationships. His book "Father of the Family", published worldwide won the Spiritual Life Award. As a psychotherapist Clayton helped thousands of people through his private practice; as a public speaker who lectured all over the world, and through several video series of his lectures, which aired on public television.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to a charity of your choice or to Catholic Charities.

A funeral mass will be held at Mission Santa Clara, 500 El Camino Real, Santa Clara at 10 am on August 13th. Reception to follow. As Clayton often said, "Be kind to yourself."^[1][2]

Occupation: Clayton Charles Barbeau, MA, MFT " was a MFT/MFCC: This stands for Marriage and Family Therapist, formerly called Marriage, Family and Child Counselor. It is a master's level license that is specific to California and is not recognized throughout the United States. ... An MFT also needs a minimum of 3,000 supervised hours prior to licensure. " ^[3][4]

Genealogy

• Birth: 11 Apr 1930 ; Sacramento, California, United States^[5]
• Death:
• Burial: San Francisco National Cemetery; San Francisco, San Francisco County, California, USA^[6]

Parents

• Louis Albert Barbeau Male 1888–1968
• Bertha DeGnath Female 1895–1956

Spouse:

• Myra Ellen Chorley Female 1931–1979
• Married: 1953, Sacramento, California ^[7]

United States 1950 Census

Name Clayton Barbeau Sex Male Marital Status Single Occupation Mimeograph Operator Industry State of Cal Relationship to Head of Household Son Event Date 6 April 1950 Event Place Sacramento, Sacramento, California, United States Enumeration District 70-146 Clayton Barbeau's Parents and Siblings Bertha Barbeau Mother F Louis Barbeau Father M Ernest Barbeau Brother M Patricia Barbeau Sister F Donald Barbeau Brother M^[8]

Publications

1. "Title: The Ikon

Title Record # 961310 Author: Clayton C. Barbeau Date: 1961-00-00 Type: NOVEL Language: English Note: A novel based upon Mr. Barbeau's combat experiences in the Korean War, where he earned his Combat Infantryman's Badge and a Bronze Star. Winner of the James D. Phelan Award in Literature" ^[9]

1. The Father of the Family: A Christian Perspective Book by Clayton C. Barbeau: " True fatherhood, in Barbeau’s words, is “found in love and responsibility,” and in this sense all men are called to be true fathers. With this foundation, Barbeau sets out to write a book specifically for married men who are fathers through the gift of conceiving a child naturally or through adoption, AND who are striving, with grace, to be “true fathers,” living the truth of their fatherhood in heart and spirit."

"An award-winning classic that for over forty years has shown Christian men how to be the loving husbands and gentle fathers that Christ calls them to be. Rooted firmly in Scripture, these pages call on husbands to stop thinking of themselves simply as bosses and breadwinners" ^{[10] [11]}

1. Joy of Marriage – April, 1985 by Clayton C. Barbeau (Author)

" Marriage is an art form, the most challenging and complex of all the works a human being can be inspired to create. Unlike painting, poetry, the novel, architecture, or any other of the forms in which the essential creative element of our human nature finds expression, man-the-maker cannot lay down the tools of this art form, step back, and pronounce the work complete. The creators live within and are components of their ongoing creative work. The work of human art that is marriage is a living reality, and the married are personally caught up in its dynamism" ((From the first page, of chapter I: Marriage: The creative Challenge.) ^[12]

Calegari Award Recipient 1996

" Clayton Barbeau

A delightfully surprised Clayton Barbeau was the recipient of the fourth CANFP Calegari Award, presented to him at the conclusion of his presentation at the CANFP Banquet at the 4th CANFP Statewide Conference, held in San Jose in 1996. The selection committee chose Clayton for his illumination of the ideals of Fr. Calegari in both his personal and professional life: unity, advocacy, dignity, and fidelity.

Clayton Barbeau is an internationally acclaimed speaker, author, and healer-therapist. Father of eight children, he single parented them when his wife of 26 years was struck down unexpectedly by a cerebral aneurysm. Twice blessed, he remarried ten years later.

His television series “Creating Family” was broadcast on 54 PBS stations, and his DVD series on “Coping,” “Intimacy the Loving Connection” as well as his eight part DVD series on “Surviving” are in use in various clinics, congregations, and courses for aspiring counselors around the world.

His books include The Joy of Marriage, Delivering the Male, and The Father of the Family.

A faithful supporter of NFP, he is especially dear to CANFP’s heart, because he was our inaugural speaker at our very first CANFP Conference held in 1993, where he displayed the wit and wisdom that has caused him to be in such demand as a speaker.

“Romantic love is the temporary insanity that causes people to commit marriage. Theologians call it actual grace” he quipped during is presentation. And on a more serious note, he also shared his experience doing therapy work with individuals and couples who open their lives to him, creating what he called “the most intimate and sacred moments of my life. That’s where I really know the love of God”."

( The Calegari Award is a special honor bestowed by CANFP to acknowledge significant contributions to Natural Family Planning in California) ^[13]

Memorial

" Clayton Charles Barbeau BIRTH 11 Apr 1930 Sacramento County, California, USA DEATH 26 Jul 2019 (aged 89) BURIAL San Francisco National Cemetery San Francisco, San Francisco County, California, USA MEMORIAL ID 203613124 Parents Louis Albert Barbeau 1888–1968 Bertha Degnath Barbeau 1895–1956 Spouse Myra Ellen Chorley Barbeau 1931–1979 (m. 1953) Siblings Joseph T Barbeau 1920–1991 Robert Norman Barbeau 1925–2012^[14]

Sources

1. ↑ [(Published in San Jose Mercury News/San Mateo County Times on Aug. 4, 2019)]
2. ↑ [(https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/mercurynews/obituary.aspx?n=clayton-c-barbeau&pid=193544142&fhid=24161)]
3. ↑ [(https://patch.com/california/pleasanthill/bp--md-phd-lcsw-mft-what-do-all-these-letters-mean-an8cfc2871ee)]
4. ↑ [(https://www.yellowpages.com/san-jose-ca/mip/clayton-charles-barbeau-ma-mft-473267582)]
5. ↑ [(California Birth Index, 1905-1995 "Clayton Charles Barbeau Birth Event Date: 11 Apr 1930 Sacramento, California, United States Mother's Name: Degnath"https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:VGLY-7KW)]
6. ↑ [( Sources are listed from ancestry.com: Find a Grave, database and images (https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/203613124/clayton_charles-barbeau: accessed March 15, 2024), memorial page for Clayton Charles Barbeau (11 Apr 1930–26 Jul 2019), Find a Grave Memorial ID 203613124, citing San Francisco National Cemetery, San Francisco, San Francisco County, California, USA; Maintained by Carol (contributor 46859893).)]
7. ↑ [( California, U.S., Marriage Index, 1949-1959 Marriage & divorce: Record information. Name Clayton C Barbeau Spouse; Myra E Chorley; Sacramento)]
8. ↑ [( "United States 1950 Census", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:6XGC-SGYL : Thu Oct 05 07:53:06 UTC 2023), Entry for Patricia Barbeau and Ernest Barbeau, 6 April 1950.)]
9. ↑ [(http://www.isfdb.org/cgi-bin/title.cgi?961310)]
10. ↑ [(https://www.foryourmarriage.org/blogs/the-father-of-the-family-a-christian-perspective/)]
11. ↑ [(https://www.amazon.com/Father-Family-Clayton-Barbeau/dp/1622821920)]
12. ↑ [(https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Marriage-Clayton-C-Barbeau/dp/0866837590)]
13. ↑ [(https://www.canfp.org/about-us/calegari-award/calegari-award-recipients/clayton-barbeau/)]
14. ↑ [(Credit: Find A Grave, database and images (https://www.findagrave.com : accessed 04 February 2020), memorial page for Clayton Charles Barbeau (11 Apr 1930–26 Jul 2019), Find A Grave Memorial no. 203613124, citing San Francisco National Cemetery, San Francisco, San Francisco County, California, USA ; Maintained by Carol (contributor 46859893) ." https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/203613124)]

• Clayton Barbeau in the 1940 Census; Age 10, born abt 1930 Birthplace California; Sacramento, California; Parents and siblings: Head Louis Barbeau 51; [mother] Bertha Barbeau 45; siblings John Barbeau 18 William Barbeau 16; Louis Barbeau 15; Robert Barbeau 14; Richard Barbeau 12
• U.S., Veterans' Gravesites, ca.1775-2019: Death, burial, cemetery & obituaries; Record information. Name Clayton C Barbeau; Wife Myra Ellen Barbeau.

See Also

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6PhgT5zADk
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CfUPgIJgC9E
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